The best way to make friends as an adult: Sign up for a new side quest. It could be a race or competition. Maybe a hiking adventure. Or some new creative hobby. Really whatever. It opens your life to an entirely new community of people. People you’d probably never have met or interacted with otherwise. Suddenly you have a shared mission. Group chats form. Daily texts start flying. Regular get togethers happen. Tons of new energy breathed into your life. I think we all need some Side Quest Friends. Sign up for that thing that scares you a little bit. Watch your whole life improve.

Sep 25, 2026 · 7:20 PM UTC

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Replying to @SahilBloom
Your post have been on fire lately!
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Hey thank you
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signed up for a hiking group for exactly this reason, the weekly repeat contact does more than any single event ever could
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Brands have figured this out too. It is a big reason running companies now put money into weekly group runs instead of more ads, because a shared mission keeps people coming back in a way a discount never does.
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Side quests manufacture shared stakes — the friendship is a byproduct of a mission you both opted into, not a calendar you forced.
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Side quests are a better social system than hoping to meet people: recurring activity plus shared effort creates the repetition that turns strangers into friends.
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Better to pick something you can show up to even on a low-energy week. Consistency beats intensity. I really need this kind of change in my adult life.
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This is also a good way for young people to meet friends. Instead of doing what’s cool find what you like to do and friends will follow.
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Did the same moving to SF, said yes to anything the first month
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And honestly, this is how i found you on internet
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CDC's Walk with Ease runs three group walks a week for six weeks, basically a friendship side quest with a syllabus.
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That shared 'we're all kinda clueless here' energy on a side quest? Friendship supercharger. Absolutely love this.
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The side quest is as much about finding your people as trying something new.
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Adult friends come from shared sweat. Mats did that for me more than any networking event.
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Side quests are the adult version of playground recess, except now you actually have to bring snacks.
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A shared mission gives men permission to connect without having to admit they're lonely.
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This is actually so true. As adults, we don’t always get those natural opportunities to meet new people anymore. Sometimes you just need to try something new and let the friendships happen along the way.
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I'd say sign up for some hobby class. Dance, music, singing, painting, drawing. It relieves you of your work stress. It is then also a good mental health tonic. And who knows, it could turn out to be your main profession.
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adult friendships basically die without a shared activity forcing you togerther curious what side quest actually worked for people here
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This is underrated. Most adults stay stuck in the same circles because they wait for connection to come to them. Starting something new forces proximity + shared struggle and that’s where real friendships actually form.
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Maybe the real trick is choosing a side quest you’d actually enjoy even if you met nobody there.
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I bought my dream Bentley at 19, and it's made me a load of new friends. The benefit to this is that they're all successful. I got the car I wanted, and entered a circle of winners. Double positive.
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Joining book clubs is where you make a lot of good friends
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Shared challenges make friendships happen naturally.
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This tweet is making me realize that I maybe working too much. Lool
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Based af. Eternally thankful for my original side quest king&queen, @MurrayHillGuy1 and @rachcorrine And all the friends along the way @romyglazer @hazan0608 @rkingjones @Fran_Kilinski_ , et al
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I want to find more people willing to do international backpacking with (nepal, patagonia, etc). It's tough to find people now without families or willing to do this kind of stuff. Feel free to DM me if interested. I'm kind of beginner to moderately experienced, not advanced.
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100% agree. Biotech has opened doors to friendships that I never thought possible.
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Just hike 14ers and you'll meet so many people
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Adulthood friendships form less around shared history and more around shared becoming. A side quest puts you next to people who are growing too. That shared effort is the shortcut.
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Indeed! I made a good friend on a nature walk back in July and we've been talking everyday since
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Shared activities build friendships faster than small talk ever does.
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This is so true. A lot of adult friendships happen as a side effect of doing something you already wanted to do. You don’t have to “go make friends.” Just put yourself in more rooms where the same people keep showing up.
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The Stoic Cult
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Solitude is the inner citadel where character is forged through voluntary discomfort and rational discipline.
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The real test is what survives after the finish line or final class. I'd put a coffee on the calendar before the shared project ends. Otherwise a great new friendship can quietly become a very active group chat and six months of 'soon!'
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Shared struggles build the strongest bonds. Having a common goal naturally strips away the awkwardness of traditional networking.
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